After the Stork: The Couple's Guide to Preventing and Overcoming Postpartum Depression
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A New Parent's Guide to Taking Charge of Postpartum Depression
Having a baby is one of the most dramatic transitions you will ever make, both opening you to the greatest love you can experience and setting in motion a rollercoaster of emotions you never before thought possible. These feelings are affected significantly by psychological and social factors-in fact, studies reveal that nearly as many new fathers as new mothers exhibit symptoms of postpartum depression.
Written by a clinical psychologist specializing in postpartum depression, After the Stork clearly explains this often misunderstood condition and offers a revolutionary approach to stopping depression in its tracks. You'll discover powerful tools for addressing the sleep deprivation, financial tensions, and stress that can cause depression to take hold, and finally be able to make more room for experiencing the joy of welcoming a new child into your life.
You'll learn how to:
- Develop depression-busting habits of thought
- Reconnect to your family, friends, and community
- Reignite an intimate relationship with your partner
- Move past guilt and shame and step into your new role as a great parent
depression. As you’ll recall, these were a ruminative style and an avoidant style. While the ruminative coping style has more to do with your habits of thought, the avoidant coping style affects your habits of relating—whether you reach out for social support, and how. Ambivalence can be defined as the uncomfortable process of oscillating between approach and avoidance. Rumination happens when the approach-oriented coping fails to accomplish the goal of solving a problem and instead leaves the
et al. 2009). In today’s society, most men and women becoming parents for the first time are virtually on their own when it comes to figuring out how to balance and address the needs of their new baby, their romantic partnership, and their commitments to work outside the family (Schulz, Cowan, and Cowan 2006). Relatively few couples—a mere 7 percent of women and 14 percent of men—remain stable or increase their marital satisfaction after the birth of a baby (Shapiro, Gottman, and Carrère 2000;
influences have long been overstated in the popular imagination. A pamphlet written in 1851 claimed, “By the mother’s forming hand the child receives its shape to a great extent for all its future existence” (Kagan 1996, 901). So, while attunement and attachment are important, the fact remains that human beings are remarkably resilient. Children who grew up in horrific circumstances such as Nazi concentration camps and Bengali slums not only have survived but have also gone on to thrive as
and without a bottle. You don’t have control over how intelligent your child is or how successful she becomes, but you do have control over whether you read to her, sing to her, tickle her, and play with her. These distinctions are important and helpful in learning to navigate the minefield of uncertainties and enjoy parenting. Otherwise, guilt can very easily rob you of joy. If you feel guilty, it might mean that you have good reason to be. But that depends. When guilt is merited, it is simply
withdrawals. Ideally, they would put in a little extra so that they have at least one (and preferably several) months’ worth of expenses in this account at all times. Calculate Equitable Contributions The next challenge is to determine the share of the deposit that each spouse will contribute, making their contributions fair and equitable. Single-Earner Families This step was relatively easy for Jody and Taylor because Taylor was the only one with a salary after Miles was born. They lived in